Striking a Healthy Balance Between Age and Beauty
Looks do matter, but just how much? As women change over the years, standards of beauty follow suit. Here are a few things to keep in mind after you find that first wrinkle.
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I recently had the opportunity to speak with Vivian Diller, Ph.D. the author of Face It: What Women Really Feel as Their Looks Change, which is a book about helping women strike a healthy balance between letting their looks matter and accepting the inevitable fact that their looks will change as they age. As a psychologist myself and as a middle-aged woman, I was particularly interested in learning how to help today’s women navigate the ups and downs associated with aging in a youth-obsessed culture that reinforces the notion that our looks are our currency, power and what makes us ultimately female.
Although most of us have been taught that beauty is really only skin deep, we may still find ourselves frantically attempting to push the pause button on our own aging as soon as our first wrinkle or gray hair appears. Our own conflicted feelings and the conflicting messages we receive from the media and sometimes from our own family and friends can leave us feeling confused and with a lack of clarity regarding how we should address our aging and changing looks. Aging is a difficult process that involves mourning multiple losses, one of which is our youthful appearance and physical vitality.
Here is some of what Dr. Diller had to say that I found particularly helpful. I hope you will too:
• Have a flexible definition of beauty. Try not to have only one vision of what you consider to be “the right look” in mind. When we achieve a flexible image of beauty we develop a kinder inner dialogue as well as a more realistic concept of what “beauty” truly is and means.