Betty Lou Bettner, Ph.D., LPC
Author and Psychologist
With four healthy kids of their own, Betty Lou Bettner and her husband wanted to help less fortunate children as foster parents. Worried about the tools she had to raise children who weren’t her own, Bettner picked up a copy of Rudolf Dreikurs and Vicki Soltz’s Children: The Challenge. “The more I read it, the more I realized this is a whole theory for how you live your life,” she says.
Inspired, Bettner continued to seek knowledge on raising kids, following the works of Alfred Adler, whose approach to psychology emphasized feelings of inferiority as a key factor in personality development. She also went back to school, earning a doctorate and becoming a licensed psychotherapist. Over the course of 18 years, she and her husband fostered 15 children. At her Media-based practice, she’s spent over 30 years helping families with an array of struggles.
Bettner has also authored seven books, including Six Essential Pieces of the Parenting Puzzle, and she’s spoken on Alderian psychology around the globe. “We don’t live in an autocratic society—we live in a democracy,” says Bettner. “Kids have to be able to voice their opinions and learn how to solve problems. Every day you’re going to make a mistake, and every day you’re going to have a problem. It’s not the problem—it’s what you do about the problem.”